OK, I'll admit it - I'm cheap. In my opinion, the Wedding Dress is usually the biggest waste of money in the whole shebang!. I know every little girl dreams of looking like a Princess on her wedding day, but at what cost? $10,000? $5,000? $2,000? ALL of those are actually very big numbers when you think about it. For a 5 hour wedding it's gonna cost you $400 PER HOUR for your dress? Are you going to spend more than the downpayment on a house?
And yes, I admit, it was fun going dress shopping but when you're in the "heat of battle" you don't think things through clearly. When the consultant says "This is our best selling dress" you get all excited - then later realize she should have said "Buy this and you'll look like every other June bride this year". Or "this is a good value - look at all the beading" and it means "double your budget, sucker".
They don't REALLY want to show you the sale gowns at the bridal shop - but they will if you press them. I picked out a gorgeous dress with tiers of lace (I loved it, my daughter-in-law-to-be did not). The regular price was $1700 and it was on clearance because it was discontinued. The price? $280.
And it's not just the dress. Once you've picked a budget - lets say $1,000 - you have to add in the cost of the bra and slip ($150-$200), the alterations ($300), the veil ($50-$1500), the shoes ($75-200) the nylons..... get the picture? That pretty much means for your $1000 budget you can get a $200 dress LOL!!
Now, lets face it - you're only going to wear the dress once. Is there any particular reason you can't buy a "used" dress? I love vintage clothing - I would have looked at the possibility of wearing a vintage dress as a challenge. Of course, there are also shops which specialize in used (or never used) gowns for a fraction of the retail price. What's wrong with wearing a gown that someone else bought if you REALLY LIKE IT? At most it was worn once, and sometimes it was never worn at all.
Then, of course, after the wedding, you have the privilege of spending another $200 to have your dress cleaned and boxed so you can throw it into the attic for 15 years until your pre-teen wants to wear it for Halloween. Now, I ask, do any of you know a single person who wore her mom's wedding gown?
So there you go. That's my feeling on the dress. My son's fiance did pick a relatively inexpensive gown and I don't really think the style does a thing for her figure, but hey, it's her day and I smiled, nodded and assured her that the only thing important was that SHE love the dress.