My son is getting married in May to a lovely young lady. They are both 25, both in college (my son graduates a week before the wedding) both hold down full time jobs and already own a house. They also insist on payment for most of the wedding.
But I've got a very unique position in this wedding. I'm the groom's step-mother. His own mother lives several states away and they aren't very close, so she's not doing anything about wedding planning. My husband doesn't want to do anything except show up, eat, drink and write a check. The bride's family aren't involved in the wedding at all. So I'm kinda like the Mother of the Bride and Groom, Wedding Planner, Fashion Consultant, Travel Consultant (the bride and groom also live 2 hours away from the wedding location) and Gopher!
I am trying to walk a fine line between keeping all the details on track and not being the bossy Step-Monster. No matter what the relationships are between the kids and their mothers, the bottom line is that on Wedding Day, I won't be the one dancing the "Mother-Son" dance and I won't be introduced as Mother of the Bride. That's OK. Never having had a daughter, I'm really grateful that I get to share things like choosing the food and cake, picking decorations and dressing the Bride on the Wedding Day.
Now what I want to know is this - have any of you encountered the issue of step-parents in a wedding situation? What were some of the problems and how did you resolve them? .